Remember when we were children, when everything seemed bright and shiny, we got excited about the smallest of things, when we believed anything is possible. We believed in fairy tales, we believed all the roads lead to a “Happily Ever After”? But for most of us we haven’t found our “Happily Ever After” or even the life we presumed we would be living when we grew older. Truth is, there isn’t a “Happily Ever After” or even a fairy tale life, it’s all fantasy. Most of us get down on ourselves when our lives didn’t or hasn’t panned out like we dreamed of when we were younger. I can relate to what some women are going through right now, a quarter-life crises, pre-30 crises a feeling of when we hit 30 we are instantly old. Whatever you call it, its effecting us women and not in a good way. Most of us feel like we need to live up to everything we were expected to. We see our friends getting married, having children, and living out their adult lives like everyone expected them to when they have gotten older. Our parents (well some of them anyway) are all expecting us to get a full time job, move out and support ourselves, get married, have children, and live out our adult lives like we are supposed to. However, nowadays finding a full time job is a job in itself, to support oneself isn’t a piece of cake and some children (as adults) have even had to move back in with their parents!!, getting married is a want and not a need sure if that right person comes along I would love to have the marriage of a lifetime; however, marriage isn’t and shouldn’t become a first priority. You can’t force love, love happens naturally. The same goes for having children, when one feels like the time is right, then go for it. But until then having children shouldn’t be a first priority either. That’s the reality we live in, the reality and not the fantasy life that some of us dreamed or even was lead to believe that would happen as we got older. No woman should ever fear the number 30 again, we should all be embracing 30 as we are supposed to be our more confident selves. As women (and men) we should all have faith that everything will fall into place as it was meant to be, not the way we wanted it to, or how we fantasised that it would happen, or even as our peers expected us to be in X amount of years from now. Everyone’s lives are different, so there is no need to compare our lives with those of another. The importance of living is, living thoroughly and living life and not worrying about what the future will or won’t bring.
I say this because it hasn’t been a walk in the park for me as well. I say this out of love and to show others that they are not alone. I must admit that I have done things out of fear of dying alone and that I will never be able live out my adult life that I would like. Its not easy and I won’t sugarcoat anything and talk like it is. For most women, turning 30 holds so much pressure and if you asked women that are around my age they would say that they don’t want to turn 30 because they feel like they haven’t accomplished anything that they presumed they would have accomplished at the age of 30. It’s okay to not have accomplished everything, we are only human and we will make mistakes along the way before we get to our final destinations. And always, always, always stay true to yourself! Never stop being yourself to please others. If you feel like you have to change yourself to fit in with a crowd, or please a boyfriend/spouse, or even a friend. Then they are not worth your friendship or relationship. True friends, will like you for you and you won’t ever have to feel like you have to change to please them.
Someone will always be prettier. Someone will always be smarter. Someone will always be younger. But They’ll never be YOU.
The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure that she carries, or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of a woman is seen in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart, the place where love resides. True beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul. It’s the caring that she lovingly gives, the passion that she shows & the beauty of a woman only grows with passing years.
– Audrey Hepburn28.035055 -82.599301Advertisements